How To Pray for Someone Walking Through Loss
Watching someone go through a loss like a miscarriage or a stillbirth can leave you feeling helpless and frustrated because there is nothing you can do to take the pain away. You aren’t experiencing the grief firsthand, but it overflows to the support system surrounding the individual. And that my friend, that is you. You are here simply asking “how can I help” and “what can I do”. You are a good friend!
First and foremost, don’t try to rush your friend through grief. They are consumed and they need to walk through this to truly and deeply heal. So get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Get comfortable with the silences and the tears, because we will be here for a bit.
But you aren’t left empty-handed. There IS in fact something you can do and that is pray. The Bible tells us there is power in prayer!
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6-7
While prayers won’t take away the sting of loss, prayer will give us hope and a promise that Jesus is in the midst of the pain with us.
So where do you begin? Below is a guided prayer that we’ve composed to walk you through praying. But don’t stop there - this is only a guide. Invite the Holy Spirit to speak through you and give you the words to pray!
Heavenly Father, I come before you to beseech you on behalf of _______. God, we are brokenhearted. Why? Teach us what you want us to know. Show me how to walk through this season alongside ________ and remind them of your great love for them. We know that you don’t take life, but that you are the giver of life. So, please show us how to walk through this. Show me how to support and encourage _______ all the while having the space to grieve myself. Be in all my communication with _______ and cover them with your peace. Remind them you are near because your word promises us you are near to the brokenhearted. So God we ask that you show us you are here.
